He is off to have an irresponsible day!!! He gets my attention to listen closer because he says something that just sounded like bells to my ears…  “I am off to have an irresponsible day. I would love have an irresponsible day!!! Not like his but whatever. This is not about me.

 We got to talking about porn, he was looking to buy some…guess he didn’t see what he wanted, so he started a conversation. His irresponsible day consist of meeting a 20 year old male, with a 9 inch penis for a great day of fun and fudgepacking. I am listening as I often do…he said ” I am Bi-Sexual, and that is the best pick up line to pick up open-minded women”. I didn’t chime in because…I am clueless here. He continues on, he says…”wanna hear something?” I say sure go ahead…”the other night a couple of us got a room, it was 3 girls and 3 guys and we were all bi-sexual…it was HOT” , as Paris Hilton always says.  I could only say cool man and smile as I often do. He takes my business card for Phat Toys and introduces himself and says, “I like you…I’m gone call you… I have these days all the time”. He left his card and said ” Hook me up if you have gay clientele, 140, 9 inch or bigger, into older men.

Now Phat Toys is a dating service…lol.  I will be looking into how to became a dating service now…to hook my clients up.

So listen for his stories. They will land here, when I have time. Visit us with your stories if you want them to land here too.

Phat Toys @ 3314 E  7th St, Long Beach, CA – This will give us plenty to blog about…plus product reviews.

Ways to stimulate a man after his prostate is removed: Make sure that he is medically cleared for sexual activity. You may have to romance him to help him feel sexy again. Does he like lingerie? How about giving him a strip tease or a lap dance? How about putting on an adult film?

Now that you are communicating better, use your verbal skills in the bedroom. Walk him through what you want to do sexually—most men are very literal in their use of language and sexy talk is a big turn on. Remind him of how much you love having a sexual connection and that you want him just as much as before. Reassurance during times of stress goes a long way!

After prostate surgery, it’s important for a husband to focus on his wife’s pleasure because watching her get turned on and bringing her to climax is visually stimulating! He can feed off of her arousal and focus on the growing passion. It is very important to remember that most men post surgery may need a lot more direct genital stimulation to build and maintain an erection. Using plenty of water-based lubricant or a sexual enhancement cream, she should begin massaging his penis in long strokes.

Some men may also enjoy the combination of oral and hand play to stimulate the head of the penis, where most of the nerve endings are located. Use your mouth to stimulate the head of the penis while you use one or both hands to stroke the shaft. The urethra is very sensitive, so stroke over the tip of the penis with your mouth or fingers! Many men like to have their balls touched and licked too. This will help him stay aroused as he gets hard.

Some men may want to climax this way, from oral and manual stimulation. Others may want to attempt to move on to intercourse. Regardless of which direction you choose—and if he is having trouble maintaining his erection—try sliding a cock ring over the penis and rolling it to the very base. This soft ring (usually made of silicone, hard plastic or leather) will help trap the blood flow in the penis, keeping him harder longer. Some have bullet vibrators in them for him and her to add extra sensations that many find different and fun.

Bear in mind that after prostate surgery, a man’s orgasm will be different. It will probably be dry (no ejaculation) and it may feel different. Remember, great sex in marriage is about celebrating a great love affair. As we age and our bodies change, sex changes and we may need to adapt. With creativity, patience and love, any challenges can be overcome and bring you closer. Celebrate your love sexually, no matter what that looks like now, and your relationship will be stronger for it.

Erectile Dysfunction affects most men at some time in their lives, and for some it is more than just a temporary problem. Bathmate helps with these problems, and improves the lives of virtually all who use it.

Doctors have prescribed (and even designed) pumps for erectile dysfunction for many years. The Bathmate, designed by engineers, not doctors, is the first and only pump that uses water. The innovation of water makes for supreme efficiency and safety. The Bathmate mimics the effect that is achieved during a natural erection in the way that it draws blood into the penile blood vessels. The Bathmate exercises the penis and moves blood into vascular areas which may not have been able to carry as much blood before. By encouraging more blood to flow freely through these veins it has been found to be highly beneficial to men experiencing erectile dysfunction

Bathmate has been proven to have a positive effect from even the first session and when used regularly erection problems soon become a thing of the past.

Bathmate has multiple benefits including:

• Treating Erectile Dysfunction and Peyronie’s Disease (bent penis).
• Increasing penis size and psychological health.
• Improving cholesterol levels and overall cardiovascular health.
• Being the safest, most effective product on the market.
• Approximately 10 inches in inside length and opening of 2.125 inches.

Penis pumps are considered as one of the ancient ways to erectile dysfunction in men. A large no of men have used it fruitfully over the years to get strong erection and maintain it to desired interval for successful sexual act.

Penis enlarger pumps are acknowledged as a good choice when you are not able to get the effective results through medicines, or when you want to avoid the penile surgery. Penis pumps can be used along with continuing other treatments for impotence. These are considered as one of the most affordable treatments for erectile dysfunction.

Initially penis enlargement pumps were meant for diabetic and patients of poor blood circulation, but many men find it very pleasurable too. The vibrating mechanisms makes it perfect for stimulating your penis. Due to persistent research in penis pumps now you can get the pumps which are light in weight and heavy duty. It is recommended that you should consult a GP first before using any penis pump, otherwise use at your own risk.

Penis Pumps for Penis Enhancement
There are various names for penis pumps with which they are known in the world some of which are as erection pumps, penis vacuum pumps and vacuum constriction device (VCD). These are safe, effective and non-invasive method to cure erectile dysfunction also called male impotence.

Generally, a penis enlarger pump is consists of a cylindrical tube with a pump that may be attached directly to the tip of the penis. The tube is attached to a manual, motorized or battery-powered pump to create vacuum. When a pump generates a vacuum around the penis, blood is forced into the penis thus helping it to erect. To prevent from damaging penile tissues avoid excessive pressure. The cock rings are slipped into the tip of the penis before releasing the vacuum. This ring helps to hold back the blood flow and thus helps maintain the erection. It is recommended that you should not wear the penis ring more than 30 minutes.

Penis Enlarger Pumps – Way for Stronger Erections
Even though penis enlarger pumps do not resolve erectile dysfunction completely, but they help you very well to achieve an erection at will, which is adequate enough for sexual intercourse. Penis pump can be seen as a cumbersome device but research show that older men having stable relationships are much more satisfied with this device. Doctors also recommend a combo of medicine and penis pump to some men. Even those men can also go for penile implants.

How to use a penis pump correctly?
Penis pump can help you effectively only when you use it correctly you can follow these steps for properly usage of penis pumps -

To insert the penis properly into the tube it is suggested to apply some lubricant at the base of your penis. You should even trim your pubic hair to increase air seal.

Place the cylindrical tube over the penis and fit it properly at the base of your penis.

Now, the need is to create vacuum around the penis pump in the cylindrical tube. So pump the air out of the cylinder with the hand or motorized pump. Perform this process carefully to avoid any kind of malfunction. However, if does hurt you, stop using the penis pump.

Once the vacuum is created it forces the blood to flow towards the base of the penis, forcing it to swell and become erect.

Pumping should be continued until your penis becomes fully erect. Now stop pumping and leave the pump as it is for about 2-5 minutes to get the penis filled with more blood and then remove the pump.

Once the above mentioned steps are over slide down a well greased cock ring to the base of the penis to maintain the attained erection. This cock ring helps to keep the blood in the penis and helps you in maintaining the erection.

What is a Cock Ring?
A cock ring is a device worn around the penis, used to enhance the appearance of the male genitals and extend love making by keeping blood trapped inside the penis. The first documented use of rings were believed to be in China, made from the eyelids of goats, with eye lashes intact. These flexible eyelids were tied around men’s erections and the hardened lashes were said to increase the pleasure from intercourse.

Another version of their history is that the use of cock rings began many centuries ago, developed for a rich prince who did battle bravely and took many women prisoners. Incapable of satisfying his women captives, he took his problem to his kingdom’s man of medicine, who fashioned him a cock ring.

How does it work, exactly?
An erection occurs when the penis is filled with blood after arousal. Simultaneously, muscle spasms occur at the base of the penis causing the blood to be trapped and the penis to become hard. When there is a dysfunction of the muscle spasms, the blood flows out and the penis remains soft.

Cock rings work because they restrict the flow of blood in the penis. By placing a cock ring at the base of the penis right behind the scrotum both erection and ejaculation can be controlled. Normally, once a man experiences orgasm, he usually loses the erection, but a cock ring can maintain the erection until their partner reaches orgasm. Because the cock ring works by restricting blood flow, you need to be careful how you use it – if it is worn too tight or for too long you can cause broken blood vessels.

Cock rings come in all sizes, materials and constructions. Metal or Rubber Cock Rings are placed in position by first inserting one testicle through the ring, followed by the second testicle, and finally the flaccid penis is pulled through. The penis must be flaccid when putting on a metal ring. Rubber rings are sometimes used under the glands for penile stimulation but are removed for intercourse. Metal cock rings can be hazardous if you need to get it off fast – the only two options are ice to reduce the size of the erection or a bolt cutter to cut it off. If you are a beginner, leather or quick release rubber should be your choice. Leather snap-on rings are placed around the base of the penis below the testicles and are adjustable in size, depending on the snap that is fastened.

A cock ring applied snugly to the base of an erect penis will help prevent the blood that is keeping the penis hard from returning to the body. In this manner, the cock ring helps maintain a firmer erection!

Of what kinds of materials are cock rings made?
Cock rings come in every conceivable form and material known to humankind, including rubber, silicone, leather, metal, cloth, etc. We’ve even heard of them being made of Kevlar, but we’ll believe that one when we see one!

What are the BEST cock rings made from?
This depends on what you WANT from a cock ring. If prolonged sex and a harder erection is what you seek, you’ll want a cock ring that holds blood inside the penis most effectively, which means binds the tightest. For this, you should use either rubber or silicone, which stretch the most and constrict blood flow the most effectively. If you wish to wear a cock ring for longer periods of time, you should acquire a ring with a fixed size, such as one made from metal or leather. In the case of leather, most can be adjusted tighter via metal snaps or buckles, so you can get the best of both worlds. There are also versions of cock rings called “cock and balls,” that both wrap around the penis and balls, AND have an extra ring attached to wrap around the shaft only.

How do I know what size cock ring to get?
Whoa there, stud! Though we’re sure you (or your partner) is the biggest thing since John Holmes and Ron Jeremy, we can assure you that most silicone rings will stretch to accommodate even the largest johnsons. In the case of metal rings, measuring is quite simple; take a strip of paper about 8″ long and a quarter inch wide, and wrap it around the area, marking where the two ends meet. Measure the length of the paper and divide by 3 and you’ve got your size. For most men, a 1.75-2 inch ring will be sufficient to wear comfortably.

OK, I got a cock ring, how do I properly wear it?
The proper way to wear a cock ring is behind the balls, and around the top of the shaft against your body. With a silicone or rubber ring, you can also place it around the shaft only, but you run the risk of it slipping off during sex or when things get wet and slippery. No matter which one you choose, it should fit comfortably and cause no pain.

IN ALL CASES, A COCK RING SHOULD BE PUT ON WHILE NOT ERECT!!!
To put on a stretchy ring, simply stretch the ring with the index and ring fingers of both hands, bringing it underneath and behind the balls, then back toward your body, slowly allowing the tension to bind the area securely. A metal ring is a little trickier; start with one testicle through the ring, then the other, then fold the penis and point it downward, pushing it through and pulling the ring back against your body, above the shaft. For a demo slide show, click here to see what we’re talking about.

That sounds sensible, can these things cause damage to my privates?
The answer to this question is a resounding YES. The penis is composed of millions of blood vessels and constricting blood flow into, or out of, the area is not something your genitals are designed to do. Some of the pitfalls of using a cock ring improperly (too tightly) are numbness, discoloration, and severe pain.

For safety and pleasure, a cock ring needs to increase the size of the erection only slightly. If you notice more pronounced swelling, then the fit is too tight. In that case, take the cock ring off immediately. It’s also vital for men to take off their cock ring at the first sign of pain or if the genitals feel cold. In addition, it’s dangerous to leave a ring on for too long, including wearing one to sleep when spontaneous erections are all the rage. An erection of several hours can cause blood coagulation in the penis, making it difficult to lose the erection. This is called priapism, a prolonged erection. Since new blood cannot enter the penis, this can be severely painful and cause permanent damage to the erectile tissue. If this happens to you, seek medical attention as soon as possible, and don’t worry — the staff at the ER has seen this before.

Cock Ring Helpful Hints
Cock Rings can be very pleasurable if you observe a few rules. Don’t wear one for more than thirty minutes. Use a small amount of lubrication so that it comes off easily and don’t fall asleep with it on. If you feel any serious discomfort remove it immediately. Also don’t use one if you have any cardiovascular problems, are diabetic or are taking blood thinner medications including aspirin or ginko biloba.

What You Need To Know:
Fit is especially important with Solid Cock Rings. Too small a ring, and you’ll never get it on. Too large, and it won’t hug tight enough to work. Solid Cock Rings don’t have any way of getting them off unless you lose the erection. They have to be put on when the penis is soft and then the testicles are pushed through one at a time. We recommend them only for the very experienced user. Solid Cock Rings are available in either metal or rubber and come in various sizes.

Exclusively at Phat Toys Inc. we carry The “Deep Throat” cup of the Tenga masturbation cup series that lets you experience a deep sucking sensation…Special valves create a virtual vacuum inside the cup, to deliver an amazing sucking sensation. The top air vent can be left open or closed, with fingertip, depending on your suction preferences. The unique pinched-in shape of the cup helps to achieve an unparalleled tightness. These advanced features combine with an arousing “slurping” sound and vibration give you the feeling that you’re enjoying a real deep throat experience. Soft: The Soft cup has a softer, gentler grip for a more relaxing experience. Hard: The Hard cup provides a deep and intense suction combined with a hard tightening action. Ultra Size: The “ultrasize” and “super vacuum” (U.S.) edition cups are 20% larger and are designed for the more endowed.

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